ok, i foresaw that possible retort and realized then its stalemate potential.
but
1) the bible does talk about abhoring people.
2) how do you support war and killing the person/people if you love the person/people?
(I'm not entirely sure why i'm on this numbered list kick)
and
I'll go so far as to say I believe child sexual abuse is an abomination, but that shouldn't prevent me from loving that person.
Yeah that's some serious grey area. But at what point should you stop loving someone (if you even should)? Why love the person to begin with? If you love the sexual abuser, what obligation do you have to the sexually abused?
Yeah that's some serious grey area. But at what point should you stop loving someone (if you even should)? Why love the person to begin with? If you love the sexual abuser, what obligation do you have to the sexually abused?
Define loving them... To me, it's a matter of treating them with the same amount of dignity and respect that you would expect. It's certainly not the moronic depiction of coddling them. Sometimes loving someone means confronting them about their behavior, and loving a sexual abuser means helping them (even if it means making them) stop abusing. That might mean that loving a sexual abuser requires locking them up forever - but treating them with dignity while they're locked up.
To the sexually abused, the obligation is to help them heal and that means allowing them to work through their anger, hatred, fear, etc... without judgement. It also means not allowing them to wallow in it though. In my opinion encouraging them to forgive their abuser is an obligation (but not too soon). I know the very idea of forgiving that person is appalling to many, but let me explain what I mean by forgiveness. It means I don't harbor hatred or bitterness towards them. It certainly doesn't mean me going to the prosecutor and asking them not to put the abuser in prison or anything like that. It doesn't mean I'm going to go visit them in prison and expose myself to potential future harm. It simply means I'm not going to live my life dwelling on what they did to me any longer. It's about ending that chapter and moving on. I believe it's one of the final steps in the healing process.
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To me, it's a matter of treating them with the same amount of dignity and respect that you would expect.
That's literally "respecting" another person. What's the difference between respect and love?
You handled the sexually abused/abuser well, but what about killing other people in different countries though? how can you love people and then kill them?
You're in Carl Rogers' territory of unconditional positive regard. I can dig it, but there's so much grey area.
It's about ending that chapter and moving on.
This sounds kinda unrealistic and callous. I'm not sure things are ever as simple as ending chapters and I dont even know if some chapters should end.
Considering the Bible has undergone considerable changes from its original (and fractious-considering the Dead Sea Scrolls and non-cannonical books) format until today, determining the literal word of the Lord within the oft-remixed via translation scripture is one hell of a challenging task.
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